How to Cope with Stay at Home Burnout
by Stephanie Foster
Description: Tips for relieving the stress of being a stay-at-home mom.
Being an at home parent may be the best job youíll ever get, but itís HARD. Youíre on call 24/7, and when you go on vacation, you still have the same responsibilities. And if you have a home business or work at home job, life can be even more challenging.
The first step to coping with burnout is preventing it in the first place. Donít overfill your schedule with activities for the kids or yourself. Take a little time for yourself every day. You donít need to be alone, but you do need to relax a little. Whether this may be during the kidsí naps or when theyíre in school, even taking just a few minutes for you can really help. Then you can take advantage of the time to get things done with a clear head.
Make sure your expectations and those of your family are realistic. If youíre running a home business or have a work at home job, you canít be expected to keep as perfect a house as a mother who does not. Pick a day to do the laundry, the vacuuming and other housework that doesnít need to be done on a daily basis and leave it until thenÖ unless the urgent need arises, of course.
When you get angry, donít consider yourself an imperfect or bad parent. We all get angry sometimes. What is more important is how you react to the anger.
Make sure you get enough sleep. The more tired you are, the more stress you are going to feel, and the harder it will be to cope with it. If necessary, take a nap at the same time as the kids do, so theyíre not getting into trouble for lack of supervision.
Plan fun activities once in a while to relieve stress. Depending on your needs and the needs of your family, this can be alone or with the entire family. Go to the beach, a park, zoo, mall, wherever it is you can relax and just have fun.
Consider planning or even cooking meals and snacks in advance. Itís easy to give your children healthy snacks if you have sliced vegetables and/or fruits ready to go in the fridge. A few minutesí work early in the week can save you time. Meals may also be prepared in advance and frozen for those nights when youíre simply too tired to cook. Plan your meals for leftovers that will freeze well, and say goodbye to expensive frozen dinners from the grocery store.
If writing out your schedule helps you, then keep a written schedule. If it makes you feel overwhelmed, then donít. Just because your best friend says it keeps her on schedule to have a calendar with everything she needs to do on it doesnít mean the same will work for you.
Finally, donít let other parents make you feel you owe them favors just because youíre at home and ďhave time.Ē Youíre doing a full time job taking care of your family, not just loafing. Your schedule may be just as full as theirs, if not more so.
More about stay-at-home moms. Stephanie Foster is the owner of http://www.homewiththekids.com/ and knows how hard it can be to be a stay at home parent. For more family and parenting tips for stay at home parents, visit http://www.homewiththekids.com/family/.
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